Did you know there is a cancer personality?
Early on in my journey from cancer to health I became acquainted with the idea that there is more to getting cancer than just the genetic luck of the draw. There are in fact many risk factors that go into the storm of blooming cancer in our bodies. After reading two great books on the topic I discovered that emotional health plays one of the largest roles in increasing our cancer risk. The books are Heal Breast Cancer Naturally by Dr. Veronica Desaulniers and The Healing Platform by Annie W.Brandt.
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The CANCER Risk Personality Traits:
- Highly conscientious, responsible and caring
- Hard-working and usually above average intelligence
- Tends to carry other people’s burdens
- Takes on more obligations
- Often does other’s worrying for them
- People pleaser
- Shows a deep need to make others happy
- Desires the approval of others
- Lacks closeness with one or both parents in childhood
- Internalizes and suppresses toxic emotions like anger and resentment
- Has great difficulty expressing toxic emotions
- Reacts adversely to stress
- Studies have shown a particularly traumatic event or string of events often has taken place 2 years or so before cancer was detected.
- Has not resolved childhood problems/conflicts
- May be unaware of childhood problems/conflicts
How can a personality increase your cancer risk?
People with a higher risk of cancer tend to suppress toxic emotions. During childhood, they developed the belief that it is unacceptable to express toxic emotions. As Annie quotes Dr. W. Douglas Brodie, M.D., a pioneer in the field of integrative cancer treatment, “This belief hinders their ability to fully express themselves and thus they have trouble being emotionally intimate with significant others.” They often feel that if they were truly known, including their negative emotions, they would not be accepted by their loved ones. Thus they tend to suffer considerable loneliness.” Longing for acceptance and approval, they develop a high sensitivity to the needs of others, while suppressing their own emotional needs.”
They look after the needs of others and are often thought of as caretakers. But they are reluctant to share their own problems or ask for help. They often suffer in silence. They do not complain. But their burdens and the burdens of others deeply trouble them.
Major stress causes the suppression of the immune system, which allows cancer to thrive. Excessive stress and personal traumas combined with the personality traits above make these people particularly vulnerable.
But there is hope
In my own journey, as I’ve fought this war, I’ve been able to slowly start unpacking some of the coping mechanisms I used to survive my childhood and look at them in the light of day. A lot of times the practices we used in childhood to deal with stress, turns on us in adulthood and becomes its own problem.
This is a season of great change for you
As you change the way you eat, think and behave, you can also address the misguided child within you. You can, as an adult, nurture yourself. You can learn to trust yourself to take care of yourself, as you learn to take responsibility for yourself and feel safe in your own hands.
Does this all sound familiar?
I can check every box in the list above. And believe me, your loved ones would check the boxes for you too. But here’s the thing, your loved ones already accept you as you are. It’s no secret to them that you are described in the list above. They are aware that you have faults. They already know you’re not perfect. Now you just need to fully know yourself. And here’s the hard part, accept yourself.
When cancer came all the trivial and major stress fell aside. Cancer has a way of becoming the star of the show in families, and everything else takes a backseat. The rat wheel stops and this presents a unique moment in your life when you can focus on fixing you. You CAN ask for help, cry on a shoulder, let the people you usually hold up, shine, as they help you. Allow them to exercise their caretaker muscles and share your burdens as God meant us to do.
One last thought
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